A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. Proverbs 18:19
Deep offenses are a serious issue which can destroy relationships, families and cause or exacerbate existing spiritual bondage.
Some of the related issues for further dealings in these matters include the issues of taking up an offense, root of bitterness and the need for total forgiveness.
From the perspective of the offended person, there is something deeply wrong with the other person. Something so deeply wrong that the offended person remains convinced that the WORDS of JESUS regarding release cannot apply to the situation. The offended person is convinced that the fault and blame lies fully and completely with the other person. At times, the offended person may even be of the mind that there must be a deep root of error or perhaps even spiritual deception or flaw.
Clearly, this sort of relational impasse can be a complete stalemate. The only ones who can be free are those who release. Release and you will be released. What does this mean? Some have used the fitting phrase “total forgiveness.”
The clear and desperate need for this is evident even when the offended party is convinced that there is something wrong with the other person. The truth of this is also declared in the teaching of JESUS. If you do not forgive/release your brother deeply from the heart, neither will my Father in heaven forgive/release you.
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:15
Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently. 1 Peter 1:22
Consider also that in at least some instances, the offended person is the one who is deceived as it is possible for the other person to be “…genuine, yet considered imposters.” (2C6:8)
Wisdom in the WORD 