“For the name of God is blasphemed among the nations because of you.” Romans 2:24
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An Open Letter with Complete Anonymity
Brother,
First of all, thank God that you remain committed to sharing honestly about this. You know that what I will share here is nothing but truth and requires acceptance and simple actions that are not difficult. Jesus said His yoke is easy and His burden is light. So here is the truth.
Why are you not willing to make an absolute decision and known and established declaration with me and among the local brotherhood that you will simply no longer be alone with her in private until you are married?
The Muslim students at the college have spoken numerous times about the foolishness and sin of western “Christian” dating in principle because of the inevitable sinful activity that results, and this stance of theirs against dating puts the declared household of God in the west to open shame. And these are 17 – 22 year old Muslim students who have made these legitimate critiques of western Christian practice.
I know you know this is the most truthful, essential & urgent thing I could say to you about this.
You should not be alone with her in private even during the day and definitely not at night. There are dozens of godly friends in the local brotherhood who would be willing to keep this commitment with you. The guidelines can be reasonable and simple, and I will write them down here likely in about 5-7 simple details but you have to first even be willing to accept that there is nothing but good that can come from agreeing not to continue going with situations that will only lead to such premarital physical intimacy.
The additional thing I wanted to be sure to state is the term
Appearance of evil
And also
Above reproach
You can be 100% absolutely certain that there are likely easily a dozen people who know at least to some extent that you and her spend time together in private.
That itself is a shame which ought not be among God’s people. Every person in the world knows that a couple who spends time together in private is intimately involved.
This is the most common knowledge.
That is simply fact.
I know you know I am speaking truth
And your heart may not want to hear it but as always I am telling you again
You should not be alone in private – and yes, I know you now recognize that clear and consistent phrase – with her alone in private. Yes, that is one of the 5-7 simple points which taken as a strong commitment would actually allow you and her to be above reproach. But as things stand without such a commitment you cause her to be a partaker in this appearance of sin and not at all above reproach, and that commonly known and quietly recognized by at least dozens of people who know you both.
I know you know this is true, and I want to be sure you know I know it also.
I want you to know again I do not share any of these things with anyone because this is a message shared directly with your heart intended for your heart to accept it in the love of God in which it is intended.
Wisdom in the WORD 